When Ricky Martin announced he was gay on his blog yesterday, I was clueless he had done so. Not until I settled in for the night and checked my blog stats and realized I had gotten hundreds of hits via Google images for people looking for photos of Ricky Martin's twin boys (which I had in a past post) did I realize something was up. As usual these days, my initial response, was "oh No, Did Ricky Martin die?" Then I went the only place on earth where you can get the most up-to-the-minute news: TWITTER!! Sure enough, Ricky Martin was one of the top 10 trending topics on Twitter! That is when I discovered the news! AAaaah! Well good for him for being true to himself and sharing tho I think most of us knew when he refused to confirm his sexuality to Barbara Walters back in 2000 that our chances of getting with him were over at that point! lol!
Well, I thought is was just only fitting then to have this week's edition of celebrity spotlight focus on other gay celebrities that have had children (either via surrogate, donor or adoption). Hey hey! I can be trendy too! Ha!
Singer Clay Aiken confirmed rumors that he was gay after his son was born. “I cannot raise a child to lie or to hide things,” he told People magazine. His son was conceived through artificial insemination with his close friend Jaymes Foster.
Sykes and her wife Alex have fraternal twins: daughter Olivia Lou and son Lucas Claude.
The Sex and the City star has two children and has been in relationship with a woman for several years after splitting with her husband.
Gilbert and her partner Allison Adler have two children together. Both were conceived with the aid of a sperm donor.
Etheridge has been a gay rights activist since the early 1990s. She has children from two different lesbian relationships: Bailey Jean, 11, Beckett, 9 ½, and twins Johnnie Rose and Miller Steven, 22 months,
Wong, an openly gay actor, has three children, one of whom died shortly after birth. Wong wrote a book about the experience called Following Foo: the electronic adventures of The Chestnut Man.
Cheney, daughter of former Vice President Dick Cheney, has a child with her partner Heather Poe. (baby is seen with her grand parents)
O’Donnell and her ex partner are parents to three adopted children and one child who was conceived through artificial insemination. The kids are pictured from left: daughter Chelsea, born in 1997; son Parker, born in 1995; son Blake, born in 1999; and daughter Vivienne, a biological child born to Carpenter in 2002. Cat Cora
Celebrity chef Cora and her partner, Jennifer Cora, were pregnant at the same time with their third and fourth children. The same sperm donor was used in all four pregnancies and each woman was implanted with the other’s fertilized egg.
And these are just the openly gay ones! I would imagine there are a lot of closeted celebs raising their blessings too. ha! I crack myself up!
5. worst. You got humongous knockers that do not fit in any of your current tops so you can't button them up without having peek-a-boo holes from the stretched out material in between the hard-at-work button holes. You unintentionally share with the world your new-found stripper boobs up and through your work tops. EEEK!
4. best. You got great new knockers to fill out your tops with especially if you've been a smaller size and had been aching to go up a cup size! Voila, more boobage sans plastic surgery. It sure did work for Christina Alguilera and Halle Berry and boy did they not waste time showing them off as both photos above are the ladies out and about shortly after having their respective first babies. The good news is you can buy new clothes and have your hubby at your bidding.
3. worst.After your milk comes in, those suckers can hurt like a mother if they get engorged, especially if you find yourself unable to nurse or express out the milk building up out into storage container in a timely fashion. You'd soon make best friends with a pack of peas in your freezer that you use to ease the pain. You'd learn that a warm hot squeezed wash cloth can help the milk come out on its own and would also soften your hardened orbs. Aye! I ache at the thought.
2. best. You realize soon you will start (and eventually actually do) nourish your baby with life sustaining milk and if you nurse exclusively you get that euphoric feeling of knowing that you are keeping another human being alive from something your body creates. Exhilarating!
1.worst. After you're done having babies and nursing (especially like your 2nd, 3rd or 4th kid) those puppies deflate like a hot air balloon leaving you yearning a trip to Dr. 90210 for a mommy make over including a lift and a cup size. The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away! ha!
Rumors are swirling AGAIN that Beyonce is pregnant. They started after MediaTakeOut.com reported having a "rock solid" source confirming that Beyonce, 28 is pregnant
The source also adds that Beyonce is doing well and resting while dad -to-be Jay-Z is ecstatic about the news.
This report comes just one day after DNA tests proved that Beyonce's father, Mathew Knowles, had a child with a woman he had an 18 month long affair with while married to Tina Knowles.
I know so many shady dads with entire other families hidden in another part of the country so I am not even surprised. Shaking my head.
Beyonce and rap mogul Jay-Z have been married since 2008. source Super cutie pie Mario Lopez, former Dancing with the Stars 1st Runner up, child star, host of MTV's America's Best Dance Crew and Extra host and his girlfriend are expecting their first child in the fall.
“I’m really excited. I’m happy. I can’t wait to be a dad,” Mario tells PEOPLE.The actor, 36, and his girlfriend, actress Courtney Mazza, 28, met in 2008 when Mario starred in A Chorus Line on Broadway.
Mario said he was ready for a baby cause he "grew up in a large family. I’m fired up! I don’t know what we’re having. I’m going to wait to see [the baby's sex] so it will be a surprise.” source
That's wonderful news. I thought he was gay so that shows what I know...though having a child and dating aren't conclusive as to a persons heterosexuality so... Danica McKellar, Wendy from one of my favorite 90s tv show "The Wonder Years", and her husband of one year, Mike Verta, are expecting their first child this fall. source
I've always liked her for being so grounded and smart in real life. She went to an Ivy League school I recall and majored in math! Go she- geeks!
Monica Bellucci the gorgeous Italian model who was featured nude on a Vanity Fair issue years ago (see below) (as featured in a past Bellyitch post) is back on the cover pregnant with her second child. This time a little more demure and covered up.
Monica is covering the latest issue of the Italian Vanity Fair. In the interview with the magazine she talks about having another baby (she is expecting another girl in the Spring), conceiving naturally, and her husband.
You know, here in the in the United States, we have been bickering heatedly over whether or not the recently passed massive Healthcare Legislation that has overhauled the health care system in the United States is the best for the country to enable millions of uninsured to finally receive coverage or will be a drain on the economy and overly involve the government in our personal healthcare decisions. The rhetoric and actions of Tea Party protesters and others have become heinous such as the spitting on and calling congressmen racist and homophobic names and all, and more recently some congressmen and their family members had their gas line cut, received death threats, and had their office windows shattered in the aftermath. I was shocked by the rudeness and lack of decorum displayed in the once prestigious legislative floor as one congressman called another a "baby killer"! So uncalled for as even a pro-lifer as myself wouldn't support or condone such actions.
Amidst all of this passionate discourse and activity, I became humbled by this notification I spotted. It is about a program that will ensure pregnant women who live in my impoverished native Sierra Leone will get FREE health care within 5 years. It is thanks to a new emergency health program that will receive a £34 million boost from the UK’s Department for International Development (DFID). The program was unveiled in Novermber at the Sierra Leone investment conference in London and was part of the country’s new six year strategy to make healthcare free for pregnant and lactating women and children under five by 2010.
Here we have one of the poorest country in the world giving its pregnant women FREE healthcare (even if it is with the help of international aide)!
After having a C-section that was billed at $11,000, I always worry how come there is a tremendous mark up and if the shady insurance industry has anything to do with it all. Certainly, a pregnant poor African woman would not be able to afford a C-section in America, but maybe she could in Africa!
What is that about?!
Any. Off my soapbox now! (edited to add a link to SaveTheChildren, the initiative that supports families and children in Sierra Leone and around the world in case you are inclined to learn more and donate to its efforts.) In other news, pregnancy and delivery related, I have a horrifying story to share about what happened on the C-section table to a friend of mine's friend recently. I'm waiting for the details but am anxious to share and spread awareness about this horrific and reoccurring incident. Stay tuned folks.
They say it's not a good idea to use semi-permanent dye on your hair when pregnant because the chemicals in the dye could permeate the placenta and impact the baby. But if you are a woman who doesn't want to keep her gray or to keep her existing hair color, a temporary dye that does not use the same chemicals or less harsh and toxic chemicals may be the solution.
Clairol, the makers of Jazzing, a temporary hair coloring solution for African American women's hair, sent be some samples (4 bottles that retail about $5.99 each) of its products to sample and review. Since I do not wear dyes in my hair, I solicited the assistance of a couple of friends that do.
Overall, the response was mixed. One reviewer said she really liked the color and the vibrancy of it ( cherry). However, one reviewer was frustrated that she used the dye and after a week, the color started to fade and she hadn't even shampooed her hair since first dying it.
This same reviewer did like that the product required no mixing and could be used straight out the bottle. Also one bottle could do her entire head - it was a stretch at the end, but did the whole head nonetheless.
So there you have it...other info about the product:
Jazzing translucent hair color shades spice up colored, permed and relaxed hair with temporary or semi-permanent results. Dramatic shades add sizzling, vibrant color to African American hair. Soft shades are subtle, adding richness and depth to natural hair color. Shines, conditions and all that jazz!
I'd say it's worth a try! Check it out here!
I was talking with a friend the other day and stopped short of going into all the gory details of what she can expect during labor and delivery. She asked me how come I wouldn't finish my thought and I told her plain that there are certain "secrets" or rites of passage that you just have to go through and experience.
After you are done, you join the sisterhood of "having given birthhood".
In fact, it's not hard to explain, just uncomfortable and that is why these things are best left unsaid and out of pleasant conversation.
Lucky for you again, you follow this blog and you don't have to go into it all unwarned. Below, I list the top 10 things your mom would never tell you, pregnant woman, about what you're in for... that is if your friends haven't already spilled the beans or you haven't already gotten into in reading the endless amount of stuff I know you are reading right now.
10. At some point you will be on all fours or on your back, with your butt in the air and there will be a small team of people staring at your vagina, massaging it, and sticking their hands in and around your punany...no. Stop and strip down from waist down and spread out and imagine how uncomfortable that feels. Yes, at the point when you're pushing you may not care about that, but at some moment, you're gonna be like "oh wow, never imagined it would be like this."
9. After you have the baby, you're gonna have to push out the placenta and deliver it. It's not like an extra baby or anything, but just when you're all done, they're gonna be like, whoa nelly, there's something else in there we need. EEk!
8. At some point, you may want to shave your nether regions, but you won't be able to see that area at all, let alone your feet when standing up. So, hopefully no one will notice and you don't plan romping in a bikini anyway.
7. You may have lots of flatulence and find yourself passing gas all randomly and uncontrollably and there is no way to be pretty about it. Your family will understand and they're the ones that matter the most, after all eh?
6. During the pushing stage, you may poop and if you get an epidural, you may not even know it. The nurses will just clean it up and may not even tell you. Bless their hearts. Your husband may see it and throw up a little in his mouth when he sees it, however. This is why many women try not to eat large meals when they know they are close to giving birth. In the past, women would take enemas to try to empty their bowels. Well, enemas aren't recommended anymore and sometimes you go into labor when you least expect it and have no control over what leftover digestible matter is sitting at the base of your colon just as you need to start pushing that baby out! oh well!
5. After delivery, you may have to double up on your nursing pads because you may start to leak at the most inopportune time. The sound of someone else's baby crying from afar may cause your boobs to ache and you to spontaneously leak milk. Imagine that happening in the middle of your presentation at work. Eek!
4. After giving birth, even via c-section, you ooze blood and other secretions for weeks even after having the baby. And if you have to have surgery, you won't be able to move your legs and may have a catheter for the first day or two while your legs come back. A nurse will have to come in and empty your bedpan every once in a while. You will be amazed at how much you pee in a half a day. It is so weird to be going and not even know it because you have no feeling there.
3. If you have to have an episiotomy (which isn't done much these days), to repair that and some tearing that you may have while pushing your baby out, you will have to sit there, legs wide opened again, while a doctor sews your vagina back up. Read that again, "sewing up your vagina." It just sounds Icky! The recovery is interesting because you'll have to be mindful of those stitches until they heal up.
2. Your baby might come out with an alien-shaped head (on account of the soft still developing skull that helps the baby come out the vagina) and it may have various splotches on its skin, fine hairs (called lanugo) all over its face and body and may have lots of with acne. In short, the baby may not be that cute to anyone else (but you maybe because it came out of you). A lot of newborns don't start out as cute as they end up after a day, week or even month (or two). If you catch someone calling him/her "precious" or "sweet", that's code for "eeek! I hope s/he grows into her looks!" It's okay, most of them grow into their cute and cuddliness soon enough. But in the end, they all are blessings, even if they start out looking like a creature from Deep Space 9.
1. You may not be able to have normal bowel movements for days even weeks after delivery, especially if you have a c-section or are given any drugs during the process. You may have a nurse come in and have to push a suppository in your anus to stimulate a bowel movement. Why? Because you won't be able to reach up there easily after all that pushing and prodding (either vaginally or via surgery ) to get that baby (or babies out). Yup, for me that was the number one "oh em gee" and unexpected part of child birth, anyway. I am comfortable with my body and self and that caught me by surprised so... *sigh* Godspeed pregnant people!
Now you know! And like G.I. Joe always said "Knowing is Half the Battle" ----------- Runner ups to the Top 10:
1. The Bill. I recall getting ours (though thankfully our insurance covered most of it) we were charged for each pill, each day watching TV, anesthesia, every shot, pillow, and comfort. For C-section that bill can be even higher. I had each of my children at an upscale private hospital and my last surgery came up to $11,000!!! Imagine, to have a baby? Granted we did pay for extras like a single room, but Good Lord, back in my native West Africa, could you imagine so much being charged so much to deliver a baby.?What's up with the mark up?
2. Your belly does not go down immediately. You have a sizeable pouch about as big as you were at 6 months. That bump does not go down easily . Some women use belly bands to encourage it to go down. As the uterus shrinks back to its original size before you became pregnant, it will help it along as well. The only folks who have flat tummies after giving birth are celebrities that get tummy tucks right after giving birth (ethical or not, it happens!)
When I was pregnant with my first child, I had this uncanny craving for BEER of all things. Normally, I HATE beer and am certainly am no Beer drinker. So you can imagine my surprise to find myself having this itch to scratch.
Yes, imagine a 7 month old pregnant woman waddling in and out of liquor stores all over the DC area in search of a non-alcoholic option. THE HILARITY of it all!
Well, I found that O'doul's did the trick and since I am not normally a beer drinker, I didn't mind, or at least, couldn't tell how inferior it was to the real alcoholic beer. In fact, I found it quite refreshing and tasty. I do blame the unreasonable pregnancy for that!
So if you are pregnant this year and find the office after work St. Paddy's Day happy hour too tempting to resist, kick back, go to your local grocer's, grab a six pack of O'Doul's. Because your favorite bar may not carry it, you may have to go "ghetto" and bring in your own in a paper bag. I mean if you are that desperate to not miss out on the fun, a pregnant chick has got to do what she's got to do.
...oh and this stunt would bode better for those who can still hide the fact that they are with child. Not intended for you protruding belly third trimesters out there! It won't be long for you can indulge freely anyway. Sit this one out!
And I know there are others on the market (though not that many) but don't hold me to the taste because I do recall having one particular brand (I forget which one) that tasted like hand soap! Yuck!
I hope it wasn't one of these, mostly German beers that are marketed to the Islamic world where consuming alcohol is against the religion and some laws I believe: