Monday, December 31, 2007
since OBs are taking now...30 minutes to call me back! oh and some guy named Dr. Burke from some OTHER practice they share on-call duty with is calling me back!
My sister said I called at the "lazy" time when one doc is going off call and they wait for the next day doc who prolly starts at 7am to take the call. DARN THEM!! I guess they're not scared of risking getting SUED!! hrmph!
just my luck. both my kids were delivered by doctors Other than my regular OB. oh well. nothing like meeting your deliver doctor on the day of delivery. ha!
and why was I so cheap as to NOT get a pedicure on Saturday as planned? Told myself, I'll tell my sister to get me a parrafin wax tub for Christmas instead and save the money. :S
Thank God (so far) my crusty feet won't be in stir ups as I suspect unless this baby comes fast, I'll have a c-section today after all and there is no need for anyone to be all up under my hard toes. I'm going to have to ACQUAPHOR lotion these puppies down.
Or get the hubby to do it.
...well, this pee won't stop and but wait, it's not yellow!
WOO HOO!!!!!! I'M GONNA HAVE ME A NEW YEAR'S BABY!!!!
just called the baby sister home from college to come watch my two rugrats and rugrat neice. Thank God College breaks are like weeks long and her lazy ass aint got a job. haha!
waiting for the OBs office to call me back.
Well, last night, I finallly packed away all the toys in the children's play room, cleaned the basement and was set to finalize my paper organizations. I'm not done yet, but am I a freak to take my computer to the hospital so I can finish typing my labels?
er...I think that might be lame and a bit too much....hmm....yeah, I betta just take my bags.
well darn. I just remembered the car seat part I ordered may not come in by Friday or Saturday when we'll be discharged from the hospital. I had it shipped Fedex overnight for Friday delivery. hmmmm. That could be a problem.
and lookey at me was just about to give my dahling sweet hubby a list of things HE must do before the c-section date:
1. set up the baby basinett so the child will have someplace to sleep
2. set up the swing so I can put her someplace when she's awake and cranky and I want to do the dishes or have a bath.
3. set up the pack n go stroller thing (not as important cause we prolly won't be "going" anywhere in the early weeks)
4. throw out the 7 big Ass GARBAGE BAGS full of trash I managed to assemble
come to think of it, this last bout of nesting must've been the kicker.
And my isn't missy being sooo obedient, already? I Heart this kid
I told her whatever you do, just wait until 37 weeks when you're full term to come and she waits until then plus a few hours.
okay, now I'm peeved I cursed out my OBs in my last post, they're taking an awfully LONG ARSE time to call me back and give me the okay to head to the hospital! Grrr....
Friday, December 28, 2007
Why I say this?
Why else will the man say he sees nothing wrong with my weight gain even after taking note that I've GROWN from a tight, svelt and muscular 140lbs at 8 weeks pregnant to a round bulubuous 188lbs at 36 weeks!?!?!?!
That is a 48 lb WEIGHT GAIN!!!....and counting.....ARRRRGH!!!!
What happened to the recommended 15-25lbs normal weight gain? huh?
Early on in this pregnancy, I was so happy that I could monitor my eating, exercise and was netting moderate weight increase each OB visit.
I blame it on the holiday season and the fact that I'm having this baby in the winter when human being's bodies want to retain FAT. *sigh*
At least I've been eating whatever I want, in modest amounts and at reasonable hours to stave off indigestion and acid reflux because after giving birth, I am SO going back on my vegan diet and gonna be back at the gym as soon as the docs give the okey doke!
Thursday, December 27, 2007
I really need to change my overly generous giving ways.
I've always been a great gift giver, even in college, when I was a broke student and only had a credit card, I'd go into debt to buy my family great gifts. Like most college kids, my parents did a horrible job of teaching me fiscal responsibility and those credit card companies just prey on kids banking on our parents and future earning potential to dig out of the debt we will inevitably get into with those cards.
Alas, this year again, as is my usual M.O. , I went overboard with the Christmas spending. This was not a good year to do this as business has been not so booming lately. Nonetheless, I tapped into unused credit cards to make sure all the people on my list were happy. And on more than one occasion, I spent more than I should have.
As I was going over the receipts this evening, I noticed that unless I really pinch or do some drastic financing or am able to successfully collect some significant receipts owed to me and my business, I will most likely be paying a hefty fee (in the form of interest charges) for this generosity.
I think what drove it home more was the fact that one particular family who was the beneficiary of my generosity and who is also under their own fiscal strain did the right thing and gave us gifts that look like they cost a modest amount. Hmmmm. I could not be mad at them b/c of the lack of reciprocity in gift value, b/c I understand well their financial position, nor could I be bitter that I've spent a lot of money on them and their kids over the year. It's not like they haven't spent a heaping amount on us in times of greater prosperity.
It was a harsh lesson that I really should listen to my husband who has always said do not spend when you do not really have.
This is especially true this year as we have another kid on the way and are looking to possibly move into a larger home.
I need to stop being so hard headed. I guess I can take solace in knowing my heart was in the right place, but good intentions will not make me independently wealthy by age 50!
I'd still like to retire and travel after getting this brood out the house in 18 years!
THE NESTING CONTINUES....
BUT I'M HAPPY TO HAVE MADE SOME
snuzzler , swaddling blankets ( THE LAST TWO ARE NEW INVENTIONS)
1. trade in our Sedan (the Passat) for an 8 seater SUV ( Honda Pilot)
2. order a missing piece to the car seat and pray it gets delivered before baby comes
3. purchase missing breast pump parts and then sterilize them
4. sterilize the baby toys and dig up a couple of missing pieces to the old baby monitor
5. finish organizing personal and business files in the office
6. get the carseat bases in each car and get them inspected at the police station.
7. buy new drawer pulls for the dresser and maybe some feminine touches to the nursery. maybe rearrange furniture and get another toddler bed in kids' nursery/room
8. finalize client obligations and organize business files in preparation for accountant and tax filing
If I can get items 1-6 done by c-section due date, I'll be totally happy!
Tuesday, December 25, 2007
Sunday, December 23, 2007
it's official. i have an assback!
From the Urban Dictionary
i guess that's what i get for getting too lazy to keep up with my daily squats regimen!
So I made my way to the Babies R Us yesterday to order a papasan swing to be delivered.
When I called the store in advance to confirm they had a swing and to put it aside for me, the clerk on the phone told me "according to the computer" they were out of stock, but I could come by to order one to be shipped to the store.
So I venture 20 minutes to the store in the middle of holiday rush traffic (INSANE) cause I hear how having a swing will be a Godsend in those early days. I recall the bouncy seat to be a gem but later like when the is 3 months old or older..
But just before going to the customer service desk, I go to the aisle where the swings were being sold and lo and behold, there is not one but THREE swings on the shelves!!!
okay. what lesson was learned there?
Saturday, December 22, 2007
apparently and UNFORTUNATELY, this gem is sold out of all the Babies R Us in my part of the country so I have to order it and pray it comes within the promised 14 days to have it shipped to my local Babies R Us. It sells for $129.00 right now.
The Baby Papasan Cradle Swing received the most rave reviews from experts, and it is also a favorite of parents. The shape of this swing's seat offers a lot of support for infants, say parents, and the two-direction movements are soothing. The Papasan swing comes in muted neutral colors. It comes with a mobile and removable toy tray, along with a variety of songs and nature sounds (a volume control is included). The swing uses four D-sized batteries, but it can also be plugged in with the included AC adapter.
I wonder if it is even worth still getting the baby infant papasan seat version of the swing which retails for $59.00 hmmm
Thursday, December 20, 2007
I am taking suggestions and otherwise I am TOTALLY open to just accept the fact that mschiefmaker #3, as a baby, won't have any clue that she has a sports and cars themed nursery. :D I'm thinking there is a high probability she may be a tomboy like how I was! notice that there is not one but EIGHT drawer pulls missing. J-boy managed to unscrew every soccer ball, truck and car drawer pull that once were on this Pali dresser we got from Great Beginnings nearly 6 years ago
My mom totally blamed me for encouraging the kids to write on her wall because we chose to paint the bottom half of the boys' room in blackboard paint. HA!! Notice too the books have overflown the bookshelf and we'll probably have to get a bigger bookshelf soon. *sigh*
This Pali crib had to be assembled inside the room cause it is too big to fit thru the tiny doors of the room! eek! It's a great piece of furniture.
No one sleeps in this car bed for too long. They find their way out of it and into our bed without fail each night. Good thing I have this book to make me NOT feel bad about having a Family bed. The Dutailier glider and ottoman is also very very durable. I can't believe how much I paid for nursery furniture, but I sure think they're worth it b/c these are great pieces that I would keep in some capacity even after the kids are big...well not the crib of course. I think I'll give that away or sell it on Ebay.
Behind the door is our excess toy graveyard. I think another trip to Goodwill is in the making. Gotta make room in the closet for Ms. Chiclet's pink, purple and frilly stuff. :)
Wednesday, December 19, 2007
but as I work from home, I swear I get A DOZEN CALLS a day from telemarketers!!!
I JUST RE-REGISTERED FOR THE DO NOT CALL REGISTRY...AGAIN!!!
I can just see myself losing sleep with a phone waking up my baby early! yikes!
Tuesday, December 18, 2007
i wonder if they trigger them. i'm getting at least 4-5 contractions per day these days and they're getting more painful. i've finally started taking the iron supplements and as a result indeed eat less ice.
I just can't stomach even the slow release iron pills. yuck! This kid is draining all my iron stores. No wonder I'm so tired!
in any event, me thinks this kid may not make it to January. who knows.
Monday, December 17, 2007
My girlfriends AND my sister did an excellent job!!! oTHER Longtime friends chipped in BIG TIME on a moment's notice!!
The food was yummy! What a spread!The atmosphere was low key and chill, even with the gobs of little kids running around. There were fun shower games, that unfortunately all of the guys chose not to partake in but to "lime" upstairs in the kitchen. Oh well. :P
We got great some great gifts and some uber cute girly oufits and even some in pink and brown, my favorite color combo these days...
And in the end, the DJ, a good friend from college spun tunes until well after midnight!
I was pleasantly surprised to see one of the women I met thru an online blog turned private internet chat community that started with fans of the popular Trinidad Carnival Diary. blog dedicated to all things related to the carnival that takes place in Trinidad and Tobago each year. She was with another longtime friend who coincidentally belongs to the same community and who jumped in last minute to chip in at the shower.
Anyway, so the wonderful ladies from that community (which my Hubby affectionately calls "the cult" because of all of our near-obsessive addiction to it) got together and purchased a combo bassinet/pack and play in CHOCOLATE BROWN AND PINK! :D
Special Thanks to my Blogerette (our name for each other) family of mostly Trini and Caribbean women who took in this wanna-be African girl from suburban Maryland via West Africa!! Thanks to: Trini Wifey, Prima Donna, SKI, Mo, Squeezle, TOG - Tantie Ruut, Wajang, CeeBee, Afro Chic, DC Trini, Sommer,
The final bounty when unpacked in our living room: Some diapers, loads of clothes, towels, receiving blankets, bottle warmers, microwave sterilizer, a snap and go and the bassinet/play pen. We're set. We're gonna use the gift cards Hubby's office gave us to buy a swing and one of the shower hosts promised us a high chair later. We still have most of the basics left over from the boys (like the car seat, baby monitors etc), but we had loaned most of our larger baby equipment to my mom's day care, and after 2 years in her business, that stuff is way too worn out for repeat use so we are very happy to have been helped out this way!
Sunday, December 16, 2007
Friday, December 14, 2007
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Thursday, December 13, 2007
My hubby's office showered him at the office Holiday luncheon with a cute outfit for baby G, which is now a true contender for the "going home outfit"
and several gift cards for Babies R Us!!!
We also got an early shower gift from a friend who probably won't be able to make it to Saturday's baby shower!
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
i can't stand that my husband leaves his closet door open all the time. i am constantly getting annoyed when i see it open and have to close it.
i know i have my own annoying quirks and bad habits which he has let me know about REPEATEDLY...LIKE...
....i don't pack the dishwasher properly...
...i leave my tea bags in my cup and they end up in the sink among the dishes...
...i don't park the cars to the left and top of the driveway so he can drag the trashcans up and down the driveway on trash days...
...i leave my shoes all over the house (and these days my bras. I CANNOT stand the constraint of bra straps around my breastbone when I already have a 5 lb kid)...
...i don't fill the ice trays to the top (but that is because I have pregnancy-induced pica and love to crunch bite sized chunks of ice and these days i don't fill them all the way on purpose)
i had a mini bitch fest last week and he accused me of leaving my doors open too all the time. after that we had a challenge with one another as to who could keep their doors closed.
so that lasted 2 days. no open closet doors. but alas, all good things must come to an end.
for the past 3 days, he's gone back to his old ways...
...i wonder if i have a boogey man fear! HA!!
Monday, December 10, 2007
By this week, fatigue has probably set in again, though maybe not with the same coma-like intensity of your first trimester. Your tiredness is perfectly understandable, given the physical strain you're under and the restless nights of frequent pee breaks and tossing and turning, while trying to get comfortable. Now's the time to slow down and save up your energy for labor day (and beyond)
Sunday, December 9, 2007
i CANNOT believe the amount of traffic that generates to this blog from people searching for variations of the term, "THE MOST EXPENSIVE BABY STROLLERS" which I posted on last month HERE
i guess the people searching are either (1) nosy people like me. inquiring minds want to know or (2) people who really do want to purchase the most expensive stroller for whatever reason (keeping up with or surpassing the "Joneses", impressing people in the malls and the park, or are real celebrities or moneyed people who may actually think that the best must cost the most money)
EDITED TO ADD: since making a couple of posts about professional pregnancy photos HERE and HERE, that topic is quickly becoming the most googled
for some bizarre reason, I like to watch this series "marathon style" rather than episode by episode on the day of the week it comes on during the regular season.
maybe i don't like the suspense thing. the same reason i don't really do "soap operas".
anyway, i taped 6 hours worth and hubby who has 67% of the Digital Video Recorder filled with his taped shows has the NERVE to ask me if I need all those episodes!!! HMPRH!!!
i watched up to the final 6 that set off for China last night before falling asleep.
so the plan tonight is to watch the last 4 hours while walking on the treadmill and doing some pregnancy pilates and yoga postures
last week, i planned to attend (1) my Goddaughter's cheerleading competition; (2) a photo shoot; and (3) a boutique opening and (4) a 50th birthday party for a good friend...i made it to half of these.
this weekend, i downgraded and planned to attend just two events: (1) a baby shower; and (2) a birthday party for a college friend. by the time i shopped for the shower gift and did a little grocery shopping after the shower, i was EXHAUSTED...took a nap and totally woke up at midnight, 5 HOURS after the party started!!! yikes!
i have to narrow my social events to one per weekend day.
i have a holiday house tour this Friday the 14th, my own shower this coming Saturday the 15th, and one other party the 23rd and a post Christmas part on the 28th (which I just learned about recently and edited this post to add) and i'm thinking after that, i'm not leaving my house for anything.
it's getting down to the wire. ..i'm getting more braxton hicks contractions...feeling tired all the time... getting more heartburn and really need to slow down.
Thursday, December 6, 2007
Wednesday, December 5, 2007
Tuesday, December 4, 2007
yup. this week, I became an official casualty of another common preggers symptom: soft gums.
so...now every toothbrushing, my gums bleed
tonight, i broke out the old unopened pack of sucus brushes sitting in my medicine cabinet and will begin a nightly ritual of treating my gumline with a gentle brush massage of a hydrogen peroxide and baking soda mix...a trick I learned from my dental hygenist to keep the gumline strong.
Sunday, December 2, 2007
Since this will be the 5th baby shower* that we have been fortunate and blessed to have thrown for us, I have become such a baby registry expert...so much so that I didn't even need hubby's input or participation this time around.
[ *For our 1st kid, my law school bff threw a shower for our school friends. Then, hubby's family in Brooklyn and my BFF who lives in NY threw us a NY shower. Finally, my sister and a good friend of my hubby and mine threw us a "surprise" shower where we live. We were given one for the second boy (which I didn't expect and I think protocol says should be expected for a second child of the same gender born within a few years of one another) and now friends are throwing one for the first girl.]
Anyway, so I rolled around Target last weekend all by myself and then registered with Babies R Us online with the hubby totally oblivious as to what we requested. Thank God, you can now register for stuff online without having to walk around stores these days, it saved us tremendous amount of time given our very hectic schedules.
Here are my TOP TEN TIPS for registering for a baby shower, from a self-proclaimed vet! ha!
10. Keep it simple. As with your wedding registry, do not register for stuff you think is cute but do not know if you'd necessarily need (like a 10 cassette set of lullabys). Why? Someone would get the unnecessary "frivolous" for you and in the end there will be critical essentials like bottles and diapers still left on the registry list that you will have to purchase yourself. You'll kick yourself everytime you scan the stack of cds collecting dust on the bookshelf.
9. Do your research. It is so easy to get caught up in the various "must have" baby nursery and layette needs you see on the net, on the registry sites, but those lists are full of items that you may not use, especially if it's not in your nature. For example, I've found the two biggest items that are total waste of money items: (1)The baby organizer thing for storing your diapers and diaper changing essentials; and (2) the baby warmer. We found we could just use the top shelf of our combination dresser/changing station to store diapers and a basket on top housed diaper cremes, lotions, baby oil, Q-tips etc. All the reviews from friends and those on the web said the diaper warmer dried out the wipes and turned them brown. Most of my friends unplugged their warmers and chucked them within months of using them.
8. Don't be afraid register for large ticket items. Sometimes co-workers will chip in money to purchase one large item off your list. So go ahead and register for those expensive comforter sets, the double stroller, the glider and ottoman. Who knows, you might get lucky.
7. Make sure you do put low priced items. Don't want folks on the budget to feel obligated to break their bank buying you a gift. Gotta keep the students, family members on fixed income and budgets in mind.
6. Put Diapers on the list. Yeah, it may seem like a practical gift that isn't going to draw the same "ooohs and aaahs" as say a cute outfit or soft frilly blanket, but given the cost of diapers and the fact you'll be paying for them for at least three years on your own, it will be a relief to not have to start the investment until the child is like 3 months old. Remember babies grown out of the newborn diapers pretty quickly and so there may not be a need to even put those on the registry list. You'll get plenty of starters from the hospital probably to last you the first month.
5. If you register for clothes, vary the sizes. Babies do not last long in the 0-3 month clothes, be sure to add 3-6 months, 6-9months, and 12 + months on the list.
4. Keep Gift receipts. Not everyone takes the registry list and number to the cashier when they check out and so it is very likely you may end up with two of one item. Also, again, you never know which items you may never use. Neither of our two boys liked our Baby Bjorn infant Carrier AT ALL. Back then, the thing cost $99.00 and had I kept the receipt, I would have traded it in for a store credit. I was thinking of giving it away or selling in on Ebay and thought if I had another kid s/he may like the carrier, so I kept it.
3. Be prepared to throw away stuff that doesn't work with your lifestyle or you can't get into. I've had a couple of friends, who like me, found the very famous Diaper Genie to be (a) a pain to operate; and (b) lose its odor retaining abilities too quickly. Within 6 months of use, you could smell poopie diapers all over the house cause that thing just quit on us. Also, the refills were a bit on the costly side and it just became an expensive nuisance. Don't feel wedded to keep an item just because someone gave it to you. You've got to be ready to cut the strings and send the thing off to the big dumpster in the sky.
2. Register at more than one store, if possible. With our first kid, we registered at the shop all our shi-shi friends registered at, Buy Buy Baby. However, the store didn't have branches all over and none in New York City where a majority of hubby's family lived. We added Babies R US/Toys R Us to accommodate them. In this day and age, Babies R Us and Target are the top choice and they are online.
1. Appreciate any and all gifts as blessings. It can be easy to get caught up in wanting to get most or all your items off the list, but the reality is you probably won't. There are people who won't even get you items on your list and may surprise you with nice personal items like a hand knitted cap or a birth certificate holder. Items your wouldn't put on your registry but would much appreciate. It should always be about the fact that your family and friends have gotten together and decided to help defray the financial burden of welcoming your new child in the world. No channeling Bridezilla tendencies into Momzilla -dome! ha!